A relationship, no matter what name you use for it, must be simple.  How long can we stay in a relationship where all you feel is up & downs? All the "it's complicated", "we stopped seing each other and then we started again, but then we stopped seeing each other and now we are together again". When we spend too much time discussing about how our relationship should be, let me tell you, that's no good. And it's not going to change.

This reminds me of the time when, for my graduation from school, I wanted my Mum to spend 500€ in a dress which didn't even look good on me. It was just the illusion of thinking that the dress was perfect. Maybe it was. But not for me. I would try to convince my relatives that it was the only dress I could wear. That I would not have the best day of my life (until that moment) if I didn't wear that dress.

But down deep inside of me I knew that that wasn't the dress for me. Stunning, yeah, but it didn't fit me. Not my colour, not my cut. 

I finally wore another dress, much simpler, but it made me feel the most beautiful girl in the party. Maybe I wasn't, but it made me feel better than ever.

No matter who you are with, you have to feel good. Comfortable. No matter if that person is the richest, the most handsome one, the one with bluest eyes, or the boy next door. You don't have to think about how many people have been in his life, the only thing that matter is how happy you feel when you're with him. Or when you're not.

The "I'm not prepareds" or the "it's too soons" are the type of people you should stay away from. You will realise that these people are not for you. But you will probably realise after a long time. Because at the moment you are blinded by the false feeling of loving someone when what you really feel is a huge obsession.

Love is not easy to find. And it's not easy to  recognise. Sometimes we are mistaken, we think it's love when what we really feel is huge passion, or respect, habit or reliance.

We have to learn from the past and advice our future. I mean, if you don't like something and the lack of communication made your relationship difficult, say it. You don't want another relationship to end due to the same reason.

If things are not going well on the first stage, let me tell you that you that changing someone is not the way. And it's not going to get better.

We always go for the supposed-to-be-prince-charming. But then we realise that we are wrong. What we need is someone to rely on, to trust, who's always there to listen. Someone who knows how to cheer you up when you're down.

Learn to empathise. It's the most important thing. Ever. And flexibility. Some of your single habits while change, but this doesn't mean that EVERYTHING changes. That's when you know that that is not for you. But you need to trust that person.

Remember, we can't plan love. Sometimes we feel it after our first date, sometimes when we lose that person. You can't plan when you want to fall in love. That's not love.